Wear Sunscreen…

While cleaning up the mess that Hurricane Abby and Tropical Storm Ellie left in our room, Shaun came across one of my C.D.’s. Buz Luhrman’s Something For Everyone. I haven’t listened to it and years and even contemplated throwing it out but then nostalgia stopped me.

Its hard to say in words what this song really means to me. Back then it meant teachers who watched us grow and develop while we did something we loved so much and leaving us with some advice. It meant a great wide world of the unknown and having to jump into it feet first. It meant having to face the facts that we eventually have to become adults. Now, it means friends who, even though we might spend years apart, are always willing to come together and pick up from where we left off. It means bright futures and growing up and watching as our lives change but amazingly enough, change together. It means taking what seemed to be big accomplishments back then, like getting a driver’s license or finally turning twenty one and trading them in for graduating college, starting a career, getting married and perhaps starting a family. But ultimately it means memories that will never be forgotten or replaced and ones that I will cherish always.

I found the following video on You Tube and it struck a chord with me. While it is not at all the story of my life, its what I visualize when I hear this song. This guy has had one amazing life so far and I am so glad he shared it in pictures and video for the world to see. It also helps that a lot of it is set in some of my favorite places to be. One day I will post the video from 1999, when this song first became so special to me, until then enjoy the video and lyrics below.

Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)
By Baz Luhrman. Original words written by Mary Schmich

Ladies and Gentlemen of the Class of 1999. Wear sunscreen.


If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they’ve faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.

Don’t worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing every day that scares you.

Sing.

Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don’t waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long and, in the end, it’s only with yourself.

Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t.

Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You’ll miss them when they’re gone.

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else’s.

Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don’t be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.

Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.

Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.

Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents. You never know when they’ll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They’re your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you’ll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you’ll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.

Don’t mess too much with your hair or by the time you’re 40 it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen.

A Day We Will Never Forget

In September of 2001 I was a 20 year old student attending San Francisco State University. The fall semester had just begun and I was now sharing an on campus apartment with 3 other girls, one of which would become my best friend. On the night of September 10th, I was working feverishly to complete a 20 page lab report. My biology class was already a challenge and it was already taking a lot of my time. I stayed up until nearly four o’clock in the morning trying to finish that lab report and make it perfect. That was the biggest worry I had in my life, at that point.

In the early hours of the morning of September 11th, my roommate Tommie came flying into our room. I was in a deep sleep when she came in. All I heard her say was “Get up, you have to see this.” I thought that someone had broken into our apartment or something was going on in the courtyard below our apartment. I then heard Tommie’s voice from the living room, “Our country is under attack” At this point I was wishing that our apartment had been broken into.

When I made it out to the living room, what I saw unfolding on our television was surreal. Here I saw the North tower of the World Trade Center on fire, smoke billowing from gaping holes in one of its sides. Then a saw the replay of what had happened. All of us were speechless. From that point on the morning moved in slow motion. We sat there wondering what could have happened and why. Was it an accident or did this happen for a reason? Unfortunately our questions were answered. As we sat there watching live footage, a second airplane came into view and we watched in horror as it slammed into the South Tower.

I remember thinking that this had to be it, who ever planned this had to be finished. We watched in terror as the twin towers of the World Trade Center burned. We watched as survivors at and above the impact zones became desperate to get out of the building that was burning. We watched as people began to jump from windows more then 90 floors up. We watched as the South Tower collapsed, followed by the North Tower only thirty or so minutes later. We sat there hoping that these horrors would end, but it wasn’t over yet. Reports were coming in that another plane had hit the Pentagon, the symbol of our safety and protection. Then reports came in of a plane meant for Washington D.C. crashing in a field in Pennsylvania. It felt like it was never going to stop.

By 9am the carnage of the day had completely unfolded. We sat glued to our TV in the living room. For days our TV remained fixed on the news and footage. We prayed and hoped that people would find their loved ones, that a miracle would occur and the loss of life would ne minimal.

However, in all of the grief, anguish and disbelief something beautiful happened. People came together. It did not matter if you were black, white, Hispanic or any other ethnicity or race. It did not matter if you were Catholic, Jewish, Mormon, or Buddhist. It did not matter if you were Democrat, Republican or could care less about politics. People came together to help one another out, whether it was to help pull people from the rubble and allowing people into their homes who needed a place to stay while they looked for loved ones to donating blood or volunteering with Red Cross. People put their differences aside and banned together to show those who tried to hurt us that even in the darkest of times we will continue on and we will not turn on one another. In such ugliness there was beauty.

Ten years later I am now married to a man I love with all of my heart and soul. We have two beautiful girls, who I would do anything for. My life has changed a lot since then and all for the better. I now look back at September 11th, 2001 through the eyes of a mother and a wife, as someone who spends every day doing things for someone other then herself. My world involves more then just me, my friends, college and finding a part time job. I look at all of the children who lost mothers and fathers that day as well as the parents who lost sons and daughters and it makes my heart ache in a way that I couldn’t have understood ten years ago.

Today my thoughts and prayers are with the families and friends who lost those closest to them on such a dark day in our short history. The nearly three thousand souls that were lost that day cannot be replaced but they will never be forgotten. I hope to one day take our children to New York City and show them the World Trade Center Memorial. I want them to see what once stood there and understand what happened that day, but to also see the resolve and the perseverance of the American people. As long as we never forget but we keep on moving, those who try to hurt this great nation will never win.

Zoo Time!

Ah the Santa Barbara Zoo. One of my favorite places to go. Yes, its a small zoo but that’s whats so great about it. You can see all of the animals they have within a few hours, play, have a picnic and it doesnt take all day. Dont get me wrong, I love going to the San Diego Zoo and I cant wait to take the girls, but that involves some extra planning and time.

So, Shaun and I took the girls to the zoo and it was a perfect day. A little warm in Santa Barbara but nothing compared to the 105 degree heat of the Valley. FIrst stop was,as usual, the otters. Bob and Jillian had another litter of about six making the otter clan at the Santa Barbara Zoo about 12 strong. But when we go there they were not out. Apparently the zoo has a new wild friend frequenting the area. A young bald eagle, who is so young his white feathers have not even grown in yet, has taken a liking to the Santa Barbara Zoo. While many of you might think, wow a Bald Eagle in Santa Barbara that’s weird, its not. Bald Eagles used to be abundant all over the United States, including southern California and its coastline. Over time and as the human population grew their number decreased to the point that it was hard to see them even in the Sierras or Southern Cascades. The fact that this eagle has made it to the zoo means the efforts to revitalize the bald eagle populations in National Parks such as Yellowstone, Yosemite and many others may be working. Because of his presence, many of the smaller animals such as the otters and meerkats were being kept inside where they would be safe. So we continued on.

We passed by the capybaras who were taking a mud bath and the snow leopard who was actually out and within view. She was close enough that you could hear her very loud purring. From there we headed over to see the Gibbons… monkeys to Abby.


Then it was off to check out some of the reptiles (*gets the creepy shivers*) and watch the penguins swim. There weren’t a lot of them in the water but as we headed to the top part of the tank, we figured out why. It was time to eat!


After the penguins we said hello to the elephants, but they were busy at the time. They were being filmed, most likely for a promotional video for the zoo. So we headed over to the California Nature trail section of the zoo to check out the condors, fox, bald eagles and also to see if the new resident bald eagle was hanging out at the zoo today. We didn’t see him though.



After a trip to see the gorillas, who were busy eating and napping, we made our way over to see the giraffes. There was a surprise new addition to the giraffe family this year. Apparently the zoo had no idea one of their females was pregnant. They closed up one night and came back the following morning to find a brand new baby giraffe. It was like the Santa Barbara Zoos own episode of “I Didnt Know I Was Pregnant”. He He… ok, I guess that was only funny to me. So anyway, we finally had the chance to see the new baby Daniel. I didn’t get a lot of great pictures because as usual we got there was it was time for them to eat. Oh well, he was still very cute. TO make up for it, the lions (Gingerbread and Chadwick) were close by and very easy to see. Usually they are in the far corner of the habitat.

After visiting the lions we took the girls on the small train that runs around the zoo. Its not much but its still fun and Abby really enjoyed it. Ellie didn’t seem to care much, that is, until we reached the lion habitat where we could see them easily. She definitely could see them and kept pointing at them saying something in her Ellie gibberish. All I know was the it excited her a lot.



Once we had finished with the train ride and Abby took a safari with a few friends we headed back to see the elephants before we left. This time we had the chance to watch them eat, get their feet washed and help the keepers pick up their habitat. No kidding, the elephants were helping to pick up, empty out and hand their black rubber water troughs to the keepers. We had a fun time watching them. Oh, and here is a picture for you Auntie Kenzi!

We then said goodbye to the elephants and made our way back to the car. Before we left Abby and I stopped in at the gift shop where I bought Abby and Ellie a little treat. Both of them were Flamingo themed. Once in the car the girls quieted down fast and before we knew it they were asleep. You know its been a fun day when you look like this on the way home…

I really am a nice mommy, but you know darn well this will be used for blackmail when she is older. Hey, it was done to us now its time for a little bit of payback! 🙂 Just kidding, sort of. I really just thought she looked too precious to let it pass. It was a sure sign of a fun day!

Pigtails!

Ellie is rocking a new and very first hair do! Yep, that hair of hers is finally long enough to put into pigtails! Its not something I plan to do a lot with her, since she doesn’t like to sit still long enough to put them in but it was fun while it lasted. Im not sure I am ready to see Ellie look more like a toddler then a baby. Ugh, they grow too fast!



In Touch with my Danish Roots. An Afternoon in Solvang


Shaun and I decided that over the Labor Day weekend we would get away at least once and do something as a family without thinking about work, house work, laundry, cell phones and the usual stresses of life. So today we headed up to Solvang for the afternoon.

The drive up brought back a lot of childhood memories. We listened to Kenny Loggins (yes, I am 30 and I listen to Kenny Loggins) and drove the coast, over San Marcos Pass, past Cachuma to Solvang. This was a drive I did often with my parents and my sister when we were kids. Its something I think of often.

The day was beautiful and Abby loved all of the buildings. She thought they all looked like castles and of course she was immediately hooked. After visiting some of my favorite shops, like the Christmas All Year Round shop (yes Mom I admit, I am just like you in so many ways) we needed to eat. Because the favorite I remember no longer exists we headed to the Little Mermaid Restaurant. It was an excellent choice and Abby had her first Danish Meatballs! SHe liked them a lot and her independence decided to shine through, as she wanted to cut them on her own.




After dinner we walked a bit to help with our full tummies and then stopped at a cute little bakery before heading home. Yes, a bakery. You cant leave a Danish village without buying well, a Danish or some yummy pastry! Despite trying to be good about eating and my diet, I indulged and it was worth every minute. I think Abby and Ellie would agree since the cookie they shared kept them quiet for a while.




After our pastry fix we headed home. This time we took the coast the entire way. The sun was starting to set and it was unusually clear. Wow, it was beautiful. Every time we saw water Abby would get excited, always looking for mermaids, sharks and of course Nemo. It was a great family outing with very little stress. This is something we need to do more often. Until next time!

14 Months and a Day at the Park to Celebrate…


Ellie is 14 months old today! Its very hard to believe but she is. Two months really have passed since her first birthday! Ellie is growing by leaps and bounds and we are really starting to see her personaility. Ellie loves to be with her sister; following her, playing with her and mimicking her. At the same time Ellie is becoming very independent. Abby is going to have to watch out because Ellie is learning to stand up for herself and hold her ground. I see a lot of time outs and separation in our future.

Ellie has four of her bottom teeth now and it looks as though her top front teeth are trying to make their way out of those very red and swollen gums. It makes for a grumpy girl at times, but usually she is happy and usually wears a smile. Ellie is really starting to talk, more then just her babbling. So far we have heard her say the following things (or so we think)…

Uh Oh
Mama
Dada
Nana
Bubble
Gog aka Dog
Guck aka Duck

The rest of the time she talks in words we cant understand, but we still have long funny conversations with her. Ellie is also singing. While she doesn’t have the words she is pretty good with the tune. Its hard to believe how fast she is growing.

A Day at the Park

As a little celebration, I decided to head to the park with the girls. The weather was finally cool (less then 85 degrees out) and a nice cool breeze was blowing. Of course, Abby was excited about this. We packed snacks for a picnic and headed out.


The girls stayed for nearly 3 and a half hours, spending most of their time in the grass and in the sandbox. Abby made several new friends in the sandbox and worked very hard to make a sandcastle. She used some rocks to decorate the sides as well as a cap from my water and then put a stick and a leaf at the top to act as a flag. She was very proud of it and protective too. Ellie, who used to hate the feeling of sand on her, got used to it and once she did she dig right in. She sat there forever using her shovel to put sand in her bucket.







Abby and Ellie played well together too, which always makes me happy. Abby tried to show Ellie how to make a sandcastle, but Ellie was content with shoveling sand. The girls really did not want to leave but it was obvious that they needed a rest. Abby fought me tooth and nail but once we were on the road, heading home, Abby and Ellie quickly passed out. Once again, it was a great day at the park. Happy 14 Months Ellie!