It’s Time to Get Tangled!

Abby looked adorable in her dress and to top it off, she had Pascal to carry with her. That was a lucky find at Disneyland during our trip in July. It certainly added to the costume and Abby was willing to carry him everywhere with her.

Family and close friends came over to share the day with us. We even had the chance to see a few familiar faces that we had not seen in a while. The day was casual, with nothing speacial to be done. Abby played with Emily, Harrison and Ellie and the adults found plenty to talk about. As part of the party we played the movie, Tangled. In the end it was the adults who watched the movie as the kiddos played. I saw this coming.

As part of what I hope will become a tradition, I mde Abby’s birthday cake again this year. It ended up not being as detailed as I had hoped, but Abby didn’t care. SHe was just excited to see cake and cake with Tangled toys on them to boot.

When it came time to sing Happy Birthday to the birthday girl, we made sure everyone was there, including Grandma and Grandpa Taylor and Auntie Jillian. While they couldn’t be there in person they were on speaker phone to sing.

After cake it was present time. Abby is certainly loved and she received a lot of wonderful things from some wonderful friends and family. This was the first year that Abby actually took interest n opening presents and she wont for it. HOwever, when I say she went for it I mean she willingly opened them but she opened them slowly and methodically. Before enjoying the gift inside, Abby had to make sure that all ribbons, wrap and tape had been removed. I dont know where she gets this from but some people might say “Like Mother Like Daughter”.



After presents we all enjoyed each others company until the party came to an end and everyone went home. Abby was one tired little girl, but it was worth every minute. Its hard to believe that she is now three. The time certainly flies but I cannot wait to see what the next year (and of course many years following) will bring. Happy Birthday Pumpkin! I hope you had a wonderful birthday party!
Happy Birthday Abby
Abby,
Three years ago today you came into this world a happy little baby with the most stunning blue eyes I had ever seen. After months of kicking, flipping and a few ultrasounds your daddy and I greeted you with smiles, tears of joy and the excited yet nervous anticipation of new parents. We were not clueless about babies or children for that matter, but everything changes when the child you now hold in your arms is your own. There is a lot to teach and there is also a lot to learn.
While we are always learning, the last three years have taught us a lot. You have taught us a lot about being parents, about ourselves and about life. Its hard to sum up into words the things we have learned and what you have taught us, but here is my attempt.
In three years we have learned…
…to smile for new reasons
…that your giggle and the sound of your laughter can make even the most horrible day seem like its light years away
…to not sweat the small stuff and to take each challenge in stride
…that some of the smallest things in life like crawling and walking are part of some of our greatest joys
…that despite being small, its amazing just how much “stuff” you can produce
…that constantly talking to you, teaching you new words would eventually mean that the only time you stop talking is while eating, sleeping and occasionally during a movie. But all of that talking has given us some of the best moments of parenthood thus far
…a new definition of patience
…that being a parent should automatically give you a degree in psychology and make you a specialist in negotiating
…that you have to carefully watch what you say unless you want it repeated at the most inopportune moment
…that you are incredibly independent but always know where to go when you need help or just want to snuggle
…that you know exactly what to do to make us laugh
…that your imagination is endless and that stepping into your world always brings something new and amazing
…that just when you think you cant love anything more, you come along to change it
Abby, the love we have for you cannot be put into words. It’s amazing that three years have passed already but we have enjoyed every moment. We look forward to the years to come and all the adventures ahead of us. Turning three means officially stepping from toddler to preschooler. Moving from diapers to completely potty trained. The start of school and making friends. But I will stop there because I dont want that time to move too quickly. Happy Birthday Little Pumpkin, we love you so much!
Wear Sunscreen…
While cleaning up the mess that Hurricane Abby and Tropical Storm Ellie left in our room, Shaun came across one of my C.D.’s. Buz Luhrman’s Something For Everyone. I haven’t listened to it and years and even contemplated throwing it out but then nostalgia stopped me.
Its hard to say in words what this song really means to me. Back then it meant teachers who watched us grow and develop while we did something we loved so much and leaving us with some advice. It meant a great wide world of the unknown and having to jump into it feet first. It meant having to face the facts that we eventually have to become adults. Now, it means friends who, even though we might spend years apart, are always willing to come together and pick up from where we left off. It means bright futures and growing up and watching as our lives change but amazingly enough, change together. It means taking what seemed to be big accomplishments back then, like getting a driver’s license or finally turning twenty one and trading them in for graduating college, starting a career, getting married and perhaps starting a family. But ultimately it means memories that will never be forgotten or replaced and ones that I will cherish always.
I found the following video on You Tube and it struck a chord with me. While it is not at all the story of my life, its what I visualize when I hear this song. This guy has had one amazing life so far and I am so glad he shared it in pictures and video for the world to see. It also helps that a lot of it is set in some of my favorite places to be. One day I will post the video from 1999, when this song first became so special to me, until then enjoy the video and lyrics below.
Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)
By Baz Luhrman. Original words written by Mary Schmich
Ladies and Gentlemen of the Class of 1999. Wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they’ve faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you’ll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don’t worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Sing.
Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss.
Don’t waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind. The race is long and, in the end, it’s only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch.
Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You’ll miss them when they’re gone.
Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t. Maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else’s.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don’t be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they’ll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They’re your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.
Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you’ll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you’ll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don’t mess too much with your hair or by the time you’re 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.
A Day We Will Never Forget
In September of 2001 I was a 20 year old student attending San Francisco State University. The fall semester had just begun and I was now sharing an on campus apartment with 3 other girls, one of which would become my best friend. On the night of September 10th, I was working feverishly to complete a 20 page lab report. My biology class was already a challenge and it was already taking a lot of my time. I stayed up until nearly four o’clock in the morning trying to finish that lab report and make it perfect. That was the biggest worry I had in my life, at that point.
In the early hours of the morning of September 11th, my roommate Tommie came flying into our room. I was in a deep sleep when she came in. All I heard her say was “Get up, you have to see this.” I thought that someone had broken into our apartment or something was going on in the courtyard below our apartment. I then heard Tommie’s voice from the living room, “Our country is under attack” At this point I was wishing that our apartment had been broken into.
When I made it out to the living room, what I saw unfolding on our television was surreal. Here I saw the North tower of the World Trade Center on fire, smoke billowing from gaping holes in one of its sides. Then a saw the replay of what had happened. All of us were speechless. From that point on the morning moved in slow motion. We sat there wondering what could have happened and why. Was it an accident or did this happen for a reason? Unfortunately our questions were answered. As we sat there watching live footage, a second airplane came into view and we watched in horror as it slammed into the South Tower.
I remember thinking that this had to be it, who ever planned this had to be finished. We watched in terror as the twin towers of the World Trade Center burned. We watched as survivors at and above the impact zones became desperate to get out of the building that was burning. We watched as people began to jump from windows more then 90 floors up. We watched as the South Tower collapsed, followed by the North Tower only thirty or so minutes later. We sat there hoping that these horrors would end, but it wasn’t over yet. Reports were coming in that another plane had hit the Pentagon, the symbol of our safety and protection. Then reports came in of a plane meant for Washington D.C. crashing in a field in Pennsylvania. It felt like it was never going to stop.
By 9am the carnage of the day had completely unfolded. We sat glued to our TV in the living room. For days our TV remained fixed on the news and footage. We prayed and hoped that people would find their loved ones, that a miracle would occur and the loss of life would ne minimal.
However, in all of the grief, anguish and disbelief something beautiful happened. People came together. It did not matter if you were black, white, Hispanic or any other ethnicity or race. It did not matter if you were Catholic, Jewish, Mormon, or Buddhist. It did not matter if you were Democrat, Republican or could care less about politics. People came together to help one another out, whether it was to help pull people from the rubble and allowing people into their homes who needed a place to stay while they looked for loved ones to donating blood or volunteering with Red Cross. People put their differences aside and banned together to show those who tried to hurt us that even in the darkest of times we will continue on and we will not turn on one another. In such ugliness there was beauty.
Ten years later I am now married to a man I love with all of my heart and soul. We have two beautiful girls, who I would do anything for. My life has changed a lot since then and all for the better. I now look back at September 11th, 2001 through the eyes of a mother and a wife, as someone who spends every day doing things for someone other then herself. My world involves more then just me, my friends, college and finding a part time job. I look at all of the children who lost mothers and fathers that day as well as the parents who lost sons and daughters and it makes my heart ache in a way that I couldn’t have understood ten years ago.
Today my thoughts and prayers are with the families and friends who lost those closest to them on such a dark day in our short history. The nearly three thousand souls that were lost that day cannot be replaced but they will never be forgotten. I hope to one day take our children to New York City and show them the World Trade Center Memorial. I want them to see what once stood there and understand what happened that day, but to also see the resolve and the perseverance of the American people. As long as we never forget but we keep on moving, those who try to hurt this great nation will never win.
Zoo Time!
Ah the Santa Barbara Zoo. One of my favorite places to go. Yes, its a small zoo but that’s whats so great about it. You can see all of the animals they have within a few hours, play, have a picnic and it doesnt take all day. Dont get me wrong, I love going to the San Diego Zoo and I cant wait to take the girls, but that involves some extra planning and time.
So, Shaun and I took the girls to the zoo and it was a perfect day. A little warm in Santa Barbara but nothing compared to the 105 degree heat of the Valley. FIrst stop was,as usual, the otters. Bob and Jillian had another litter of about six making the otter clan at the Santa Barbara Zoo about 12 strong. But when we go there they were not out. Apparently the zoo has a new wild friend frequenting the area. A young bald eagle, who is so young his white feathers have not even grown in yet, has taken a liking to the Santa Barbara Zoo. While many of you might think, wow a Bald Eagle in Santa Barbara that’s weird, its not. Bald Eagles used to be abundant all over the United States, including southern California and its coastline. Over time and as the human population grew their number decreased to the point that it was hard to see them even in the Sierras or Southern Cascades. The fact that this eagle has made it to the zoo means the efforts to revitalize the bald eagle populations in National Parks such as Yellowstone, Yosemite and many others may be working. Because of his presence, many of the smaller animals such as the otters and meerkats were being kept inside where they would be safe. So we continued on.
We passed by the capybaras who were taking a mud bath and the snow leopard who was actually out and within view. She was close enough that you could hear her very loud purring. From there we headed over to see the Gibbons… monkeys to Abby.

Then it was off to check out some of the reptiles (*gets the creepy shivers*) and watch the penguins swim. There weren’t a lot of them in the water but as we headed to the top part of the tank, we figured out why. It was time to eat!

After the penguins we said hello to the elephants, but they were busy at the time. They were being filmed, most likely for a promotional video for the zoo. So we headed over to the California Nature trail section of the zoo to check out the condors, fox, bald eagles and also to see if the new resident bald eagle was hanging out at the zoo today. We didn’t see him though.


After a trip to see the gorillas, who were busy eating and napping, we made our way over to see the giraffes. There was a surprise new addition to the giraffe family this year. Apparently the zoo had no idea one of their females was pregnant. They closed up one night and came back the following morning to find a brand new baby giraffe. It was like the Santa Barbara Zoos own episode of “I Didnt Know I Was Pregnant”. He He… ok, I guess that was only funny to me. So anyway, we finally had the chance to see the new baby Daniel. I didn’t get a lot of great pictures because as usual we got there was it was time for them to eat. Oh well, he was still very cute. TO make up for it, the lions (Gingerbread and Chadwick) were close by and very easy to see. Usually they are in the far corner of the habitat.
After visiting the lions we took the girls on the small train that runs around the zoo. Its not much but its still fun and Abby really enjoyed it. Ellie didn’t seem to care much, that is, until we reached the lion habitat where we could see them easily. She definitely could see them and kept pointing at them saying something in her Ellie gibberish. All I know was the it excited her a lot.


Once we had finished with the train ride and Abby took a safari with a few friends we headed back to see the elephants before we left. This time we had the chance to watch them eat, get their feet washed and help the keepers pick up their habitat. No kidding, the elephants were helping to pick up, empty out and hand their black rubber water troughs to the keepers. We had a fun time watching them. Oh, and here is a picture for you Auntie Kenzi!
We then said goodbye to the elephants and made our way back to the car. Before we left Abby and I stopped in at the gift shop where I bought Abby and Ellie a little treat. Both of them were Flamingo themed. Once in the car the girls quieted down fast and before we knew it they were asleep. You know its been a fun day when you look like this on the way home…
I really am a nice mommy, but you know darn well this will be used for blackmail when she is older. Hey, it was done to us now its time for a little bit of payback! 🙂 Just kidding, sort of. I really just thought she looked too precious to let it pass. It was a sure sign of a fun day!
Pigtails!
Ellie is rocking a new and very first hair do! Yep, that hair of hers is finally long enough to put into pigtails! Its not something I plan to do a lot with her, since she doesn’t like to sit still long enough to put them in but it was fun while it lasted. Im not sure I am ready to see Ellie look more like a toddler then a baby. Ugh, they grow too fast!
In Touch with my Danish Roots. An Afternoon in Solvang

Shaun and I decided that over the Labor Day weekend we would get away at least once and do something as a family without thinking about work, house work, laundry, cell phones and the usual stresses of life. So today we headed up to Solvang for the afternoon.
The drive up brought back a lot of childhood memories. We listened to Kenny Loggins (yes, I am 30 and I listen to Kenny Loggins) and drove the coast, over San Marcos Pass, past Cachuma to Solvang. This was a drive I did often with my parents and my sister when we were kids. Its something I think of often.
The day was beautiful and Abby loved all of the buildings. She thought they all looked like castles and of course she was immediately hooked. After visiting some of my favorite shops, like the Christmas All Year Round shop (yes Mom I admit, I am just like you in so many ways) we needed to eat. Because the favorite I remember no longer exists we headed to the Little Mermaid Restaurant. It was an excellent choice and Abby had her first Danish Meatballs! SHe liked them a lot and her independence decided to shine through, as she wanted to cut them on her own.



After dinner we walked a bit to help with our full tummies and then stopped at a cute little bakery before heading home. Yes, a bakery. You cant leave a Danish village without buying well, a Danish or some yummy pastry! Despite trying to be good about eating and my diet, I indulged and it was worth every minute. I think Abby and Ellie would agree since the cookie they shared kept them quiet for a while.



After our pastry fix we headed home. This time we took the coast the entire way. The sun was starting to set and it was unusually clear. Wow, it was beautiful. Every time we saw water Abby would get excited, always looking for mermaids, sharks and of course Nemo. It was a great family outing with very little stress. This is something we need to do more often. Until next time!
14 Months and a Day at the Park to Celebrate…

Ellie is 14 months old today! Its very hard to believe but she is. Two months really have passed since her first birthday! Ellie is growing by leaps and bounds and we are really starting to see her personaility. Ellie loves to be with her sister; following her, playing with her and mimicking her. At the same time Ellie is becoming very independent. Abby is going to have to watch out because Ellie is learning to stand up for herself and hold her ground. I see a lot of time outs and separation in our future.
Ellie has four of her bottom teeth now and it looks as though her top front teeth are trying to make their way out of those very red and swollen gums. It makes for a grumpy girl at times, but usually she is happy and usually wears a smile. Ellie is really starting to talk, more then just her babbling. So far we have heard her say the following things (or so we think)…
Uh Oh
Mama
Dada
Nana
Bubble
Gog aka Dog
Guck aka Duck
The rest of the time she talks in words we cant understand, but we still have long funny conversations with her. Ellie is also singing. While she doesn’t have the words she is pretty good with the tune. Its hard to believe how fast she is growing.
A Day at the Park
As a little celebration, I decided to head to the park with the girls. The weather was finally cool (less then 85 degrees out) and a nice cool breeze was blowing. Of course, Abby was excited about this. We packed snacks for a picnic and headed out.

The girls stayed for nearly 3 and a half hours, spending most of their time in the grass and in the sandbox. Abby made several new friends in the sandbox and worked very hard to make a sandcastle. She used some rocks to decorate the sides as well as a cap from my water and then put a stick and a leaf at the top to act as a flag. She was very proud of it and protective too. Ellie, who used to hate the feeling of sand on her, got used to it and once she did she dig right in. She sat there forever using her shovel to put sand in her bucket.






Abby and Ellie played well together too, which always makes me happy. Abby tried to show Ellie how to make a sandcastle, but Ellie was content with shoveling sand. The girls really did not want to leave but it was obvious that they needed a rest. Abby fought me tooth and nail but once we were on the road, heading home, Abby and Ellie quickly passed out. Once again, it was a great day at the park. Happy 14 Months Ellie!
A Journey of Change
Alright everyone… I have a new approach to changing my health and lifestyle. I have decided to start a blog that will chronicle all of my steps to lose weight or Fight the Fluff as I now call it. I can hear it now…A new blog, you ask? Woman are you crazy? Nope! I find writing my blogs to be very cathartic and enjoyable, so why not add this step to a process that at times feels hopeless and very difficult. Sharing my thoughts, feelings, accomplishments and setbacks in a public forum with the people I know love and support me, I feel, will add to my eventual success and loss of fluff. So please visit and read about my journey at Fight of the Fluff (you will have to read my introduction to understand the meaning behind the title). Thank you in advance for your support and I hope you enjoy it as much as you enjoy The Baby Babbler. To visit this blog simply click here. Enjoy!
Happy 3rd Birthday Harrison!
Today we celebrated at the Grape Arbor Park in Calabasas with Harrison! What did we celebrate? His 3rd birthday of course! I cant believe our babies are turning three! It means that Abby is not more then a month away from this milestone. Yikes!
As it seems to always happen for the Guerrero Family, the day was one of the hottest of the year. The mercury reached 106 degrees and it was a bit humid to boot. Luckily the park has a lot of shade trees and all of the picnic tables sat underneath the arbors. Erika made Harrison’s cake again this year and it turned out great! The theme was Thomas and Friends and the cake certainly reflected that. I love that she even made a train tunnel. Very talented!
The kids played to their hearts content and didn’t seem to be affected at all by the heat; its great to be a kid! Abby had the chance to make a few new friends and play until she was actually asking us to go home and take a nap. Now that was a great party! Unfortunately Harrison and Abby are at that age where they don’t want people taking pictures of them, so I only have a few. Ellie, on the other hand, didnt have an issue with it. We love spending time with the Guerrero family and of course, celebrating birthdays with them!
Mmmmm, ice! Not only was it refreshing, it also felt good on her gums. She is finally starting to cut one of her top teeth!
Adventures in Organizing…Part One.
I have begun a mission, a mission to get rid of the junk in our house and keep it as clean as one possibly can with two small children. To get my feet wet, I decided to start with our bathroom. It really needed it. The Fly Lady helps a lot and while I don’t follow her intensely right now, its my plan to do so. If you are wondering what The Fly Lady is, click here to check things out!
The Fly Lady has one mantra that I know is working for me and that’s “Baby Steps”. I am usually the one that bites off more then I can chew and then has twice the mess half way through than what I started with. Its at that point I give up and nothing gets done. So tonight I decided to tackle one a small chunk of our master bathroom, the counter top and the top drawer. It took me only 20 minutes to complete both and I no longer live in clutter! (Well in those two places at the very least.)
Before
I constantly tried to organize this counter top, but to no avail. I needed a better system and I wanted counter space once again!
I have to say that the two things that helped our situation the most were the jars I bought and re-purposing the top drawer because I had a new place for the things inside it. Here are a few tips that I discovered:
- First off, I didn’t want to spend a ton of money reorganizing. I have enough junk as it is so I didn’t need to add anything else to the mix. So I went to a place where I knew I could find things at a very cheap price… Walmart. Ok, so I know a few of you out there have some issues with them and so do I but I knew I could find what I needed without breaking the bank. I just had to get past the lack of organization and the chaos.
- What I wanted for the counter were apothecary jars to hold cotton swabs and cotton pads. I went to the bath section and found some cruddy looking plastic ones with metal tops. They cost $8.99 a piece. When I went to look for some drawer baskets I found myself in the kitchen organization section and found the beauties you now see on my counter. For a total of $8.97 plus tax I was able to buy all three of them. So, ONE cruddy PLASTIC apothecary jar for $8.99 a piece or THREE GLASS jars for $8.97 total. I WIN! It just takes a little bit of searching.
- The small jar holds my cotton pads perfectly, the medium jar holds our cotton swabs, and the large jar holds my collection of lip gloss that I can never find when I actually need one of them. Now my lip gloss and chap stick can be found in one place and it looks pretty too!
The top drawer was simple to clean out. Most of the cotton swabs in the box fit into the medium sized jar and what was left in the box is now stored in our linen closet (another baby step for later). Basically once the jars were full, this drawer was empty. Now I could rid myself of one of the biggest pieces of clutter on my counter, my make up bag.
This one was a really cheap fix too! The black basket for all of my brushes was something I already had in the house. Its actually meant for my desk drawer to hold supplies but I wasn’t using it. So I re-purposed it. The three white baskets I also found at WalMart and set me back only $1.97 for all three.
So for this little adventure in organizing, I spent a total of $10.94 plus tax. Not bad and now my sanity is safe. At least for the moment. Next step, tackling the two remaining drawers and the cabinet under my sink. What about Shaun, you ask? Well, he is a guy so clutter in the bathroom really isn’t an issue for him! On to the next!

















